who you need to be

I understand why people project blame,
Because projecting, is their defense
Mechanism, to protect themselves,
As to keep themselves so built up,
With walls of excuses, denial,
And reactivity,
That it even keeps themselves out
Of their own “True” core, being utilized…
I understand,
How people project their pain,
Their problems, towards people
They choose to judge, they choose to not listen, not understand,
They choose to not like because you aren’t like them,
Into extremes, In defense, to who they are,
Because of their thinking, believing,
They are constantly in attack mode,
They assume, blame, projecting lies,
Telling what they think is their story to tell,
Built from gossip, pain, hurt, denial,
Trying to remain hidden behind their cruelty,
Become dissociative towards,
One pivotal person…
I understand,
This is their issues,
Their realities,
Their shit,
Not ours, not yours, not mine,
I understand,
Just as quickly,
As it is to forgive and let go,
To move on,
Even if they don’t,
I understand, that age has nothing to do,
With maturity, giving respect, sharing love,
Being responsible for own actions- words,
Honestly kind, empathic, having safe boundaries,
And sharing, as well as honoring gratitude.
These are all choices,
We have to actively choose,
Actively Practice,
Actively pursue,
Follow through with,
And live to greater, unconditional-ness,
When the adversity, of destruction,
Drives by, screams, tell your kids b.s,
And is trying to provoke you to stoop,
And we continue to rise above,
Learn lessons,
Teaching lessons to our children,
Growing together,
Side by side,
Each in our own way,
Understanding,
Not all people are meant to be in our lives,
Some are just passing through to test where we stand,
Some are just the problems we had before,
Within ourselves, within our circles, still healing,
Reminding us, we are still on the right path,
There’s no going back,
Just because they want us back,
as to comply to their demands,
Because they liked how things were,
Doesn’t mean they are destined,
To continue to ruin,or run,
What we are building now,
Be understanding,
Without stopping,
Be understanding,
Without internalizing,
Be understanding,
That they are only broadcasting,
What they choose to ignore, hide, deny,
Because they are indescribably in pain,
Hurting because they hurt,
They are choosing ignorance,
Stagnancy, let them be,
Even if they choose to not let you be…
Send them Love as to someday,
Maybe, that little light we give,
Will someday expose their light to themselves,
From the years of darkness,
Ashamed, shunned, and hurt,
They had done to them,
That they thought gave them the right,
To follow suit, and cause harm to others..
Be Understanding,
But not to the point where,
You receive all the destruction,
All the dumping, all the finger pointing.
It's rather discouraging the tactics
They are choosing to use,
As to get you back in their lives,
Only pushes you farther away,
Honor that, truth, don’t let them flip it,
Or make you second guess it...
Love and understand from a far,
Because that’s what YOU choose,
To do, as to give the space needed,
For them,
to get their own shit figured out,
And for you to remain unstoppable,
forward..
Just because they choose to do what they do with their time,
Doesn’t mean we have to do the same,
We are all different for many reasons,
Those who choose to be conditional,
Doesn’t have to be the way you live,
Believe, or have to be around,
Be understanding,
That everyone hides and lives their pain differently,
Just because some are high and mighty with egotistical,
Fear and hate ridden Pride,
Doesn’t mean YOU have to choose that too..
Melissa Palmer © Evolving Mirror
Stay aligned with your ever growing heart,
Your ever growing mind,
And step where you want to step, to become,
Who you want be, no matter the group of haters,
That swarm…