Laziness;

I’ve noticed,
If it isn’t light and fluffy,
It goes ignored,
It is left empty,
Then gets buried.
I’ve noticed when stuff gets real,
Many put these denial lenses on,
Skipping over it, so there's no internal
Confrontation with possible change and growth.
I've noticed,
That if something is triggering to someone,
Or there’s too many cuss words,
Or its a vent session which stems into growing,
Changing and healing,
Silence follows, 
Denial to embrace 
Each piece of the journey,
Which means it's not all 
Soft, sunny and rosy.
I’ve noticed if someone seems
Too bold, too much, too honest,
Or overshares their issues,
People would prefer to not acknowledge it,
Because then they may have to face themselves,
And what it incites in them,
That needs healed,
Loved, and let go of…
I’ve noticed,
I’ve observed,
I’ve experienced,
So much of this toxic love and light culture,
It really illuminates how much 
Shame and Blame dirties the filters,
In Which we read, assume, believe, think,
When reading someone's post,
We react to it in a way that in ourselves,
Feel a tinge of negativity, or fiery,
“Oh no, we can’t have that.”
Click and scroll away…
I’ve noticed,
The shame in others to have empathy and understanding,
The shame in others where they are embarrassed
To comment or show up for themselves
 if they resonate with someone's pain, frustration, because
They may get shamed or blamed from a fellow or friend..
I’ve noticed so much eggshell walking,
It alarms me, I’m shook, from all these
Non-reactions, wipe this under the rug,
Denial in every way shape and form,
As this is the new norm, ughhh..
Shut out the real,
Give only into what we wish,
This fantasy life, being..
I am not saying everyone that remains positive,
Is walking some kind of delusion.
I am saying that in most of my experiences
Through this life,
People would prefer only hearing and only seeing love and light,
That is not reality..
Reality is full of chaos and darkness,
People are full of darkness and chaos at times,
And that’s where the light should be,
So many people struggling and processing 
The shit their living, the shit they lived through,
Healing, venting, growing, PROCESSING!
May We empower honesty,
May we empower acknowledging every piece of our journeys,
Our walks, or experiences, the rough and raw, 
The negativity, the darkness, the ugly, the hard, the ruts,
The vocalizations of heavy pains coming out sometimes 
In bursts of frustrations, F-bombs, venting posts,
May we empower healing, without cutting everything out,
Rearranging it, repainting it, and making it look all
Pretty, controlled  and easier for ourselves to deal with
Life in all its array of adversities. 
Unfiltered means without filters,
No sugar coating,
No denial,
No eggshell walking,
Not only “dwelling on the positives.”
I don’t know if you are tired of the many, many layers of bullshit
Being coated on us within every angle,
But I am, LIFE isn’t all super warm, cozy and cute,
Its gets rough and most of the time shooing it away,
“Stay Positive, find the things to be grateful for, 
there's always something to smile about,”are generalizations that can hurt
And damage people because its not personalized to what they are going,
It's shutting them up, so their silence can eat them up..
I’ve noticed, 
People would much rather be silent,
Than speak up as a witness to what is real,
Through their truthful experiences they've had ,
Sharing that with another making a “REAL”
Impact of kindness, understanding, relating, and connecting..
They would prefer to stay disconnected,
Because perhaps their lives would change, or they could grow too,
But hey that requires effort..
Perhaps it's not just Denial, shame or blame,
Its people care less and want to stay LAZY…
This is what I have observed and noticed,
And now Voiced.
Melissa Palmer © Evolving Mirror2023
Scroll away,
this post is too much, too real,
too negative, too triggering,
too rough, too raw,
TOO MUCH for your to handle,
I have nothing to offer here.