Healing can be;

Healing 
Can be excruciating,
Can seem unbearable,
Can be distressing,
But it also can be;
Fascinating in the ways we discover
What we can do,
What we can overcome,
What we can release,
What we can learn and
How we still are learning,
What feels right to us,
What doesn’t feel right to us.
Being able to better discern,
Our experiences, and what we picked up on,
That either became our default setting,
Or was added to our internal narrative,
Or how that past experience in survival mode,
Is still running when we are in a different time.
We get better, we feel better,
No matter how difficult,
No matter how much we feel 
We are back slipping off a cliff-side.
We are shifting, though it may not feel that way,
We are healing, and in these healing's 
We are transforming, becoming into 
Different people, that sees things differently,
Is remembering things differently,
Somehow through all the pain, blood, sweat, tears,
Changes are happening…
Healing is for you,
Not for someone else to witness,
Or stamp approval for it to be proven.
Just like forgiveness isn’t for anyone else but you,
Some closures never come,
So our lives become a constant healing,
And learning experience,
But as we heal, we realize a lot more than
We used to, we get wiser,
Less tolerant of BS, 
Have firmer boundaries,
And honor the growth we’ve had,
Meanwhile still healing,
Adding more truths and shadows to the light
Of our knowing, as we carry on forward..
Healing 
Can be excruciating,
Can seem unbearable,
Can be distressing,
And truly confusing,
Yet somehow, brilliantly,
We are able to navigate 
Ourselves through,
Countless amount of times,
We get through,
Things get better,
We get better,
Each phase and process teaches us,
To have better faith in ourselves,
And our innate ability to overcome,
To rise, to move along perhaps sorely,
But we do sincerely and wholly,
Carry on forward, resiliently and powerfully…
Melissa Palmer © Evolving Mirror 2023
Life does get better, eventually, Be Brave.